EARLY BIRD ENDS 02ND SEPTEMBER
EARLY BIRD ENDS 02ND SEPTEMBER
WITHOUT feeling guilty about making time for yourself.
Even though it can be uncomfortable, I invite you to consider that it’s time to accept that YOU are the one who needs to make the first move towards creating the life you say want, to make space for the peace you long for and the confidence you crave.
It’s time for you to confidently face and begin to challenge the stories you tell yourself about why things are the way they are for you.
BRAVE was born out of my own search for understanding as to why I was feeling the way I felt in my motherhood. I created BRAVE for myself and every mother who feels called to take appropriate responsibility for her happiness.
BRAVE is an intimate, 12-week, online coaching program designed for mothers just like you. Mothers who have given so much of themselves they now feel empty; mothers who have realised that they don’t seek support as easily or as often as they thought they would; mothers who feel the call of their soul as it asks them to allow self-love and acceptance into their lives.
If you’re at a stage of your life where you no longer feel you know who you are anymore, then this is for you.
BRAVE is for mothers who are tired of their same old stories. There is a whisper inside of them that reminds them they are worthy of MORE – more support, more clarity, more confidence, more fun, more time, more love and communication in their relationship. MORE.
I’m weary of seeing so many mothers squeeze themselves into a life that no longer fits them. The woman you were before becoming a mother is gone. This version of you who exists today needs time and space to figure who she is, what she likes and what kind of future she wants to create for herself.
I created BRAVE because my life had changed in so many unexpected ways when my first child was born. When I became a mother, I felt as if my whole identity was fading away and I didn’t know what to do about it.
And if you’re reading this, then I know you know what I’m talking about.
You’re coming out of the intense baby days and want to get to know yourself again.
You don’t feel confident in your life anymore and feel like you’re merely getting by.
You fear that others will think you’re not coping so you say nothing.
No one really talks about this!
I was looking around at my life and although I was SO grateful, I still felt there was something missing. Yes, I was exhausted. Yes, I was overwhelmed but I knew that it went deeper than that.
My relationship had changed, my confidence in making decisions had seemed to disappear, I was being eaten alive by guilt and I felt like my whole life was now being consumed by motherhood.
Prior to having my son arriving, I had spent 33 years getting to know and love the version of me that existed, I knew her inside out. When I look back, I can see clearly what I couldn’t see at the time – the heavy price I paid for entry into motherhood.
As time went by and my son turned from a baby into a toddler, the gnawing feeling of something is missing, that something wasn’t quite right, continued. The more confident I became about the challenges I faced in my motherhood, the more conversations I started to have with other mums about their experiences.
I couldn’t find anything locally or online that would hold space for me as a woman AND a mother to explore and honour this version of myself that was emerging. No one seemed to be really talking about the impact motherhood had on their expectations of themselves, their relationships or their hopes and dreams for the future. These were the feelings and thoughts that were being hidden out of guilt and shame.
There was a huge gap between the expectation of motherhood and the reality of it and I found myself caught in this gap, feeling guilty because I could see this so clearly and yet didn’t have the words to describe how I was feeling.
I knew that I wasn’t alone in how I was feeling but in order to speak openly about what was going on in my life, I had to tackle my own feelings of guilt, shame, inadequacy, resentment, grief, and loneliness. I had to delve into the shadows of my life and explore them, get curious about what parts of myself I was holding back and why. I had to learn to speak with confidence about what I knew to be true for me without fear of judgment from others.
I experience such life-changing results when I started to speak honestly that I knew I wanted to help other mothers experience the same. Being able to talk about your version of motherhood without feeling like a ‘bad mum’ is incredibly powerful. There is freedom in acknowledging to yourself (and the world) that you want more.
Going through my own challenges and facing my own fears is what led me to create this very programme you’re reading about. I have walked every step of this programme, I know exactly when the resistance to accepting your reality kicks in, I know when it all feels like it’s too much and I know the beautiful point at which awareness dawns that taking responsibility for your life is nothing to be feared, it is to be celebrated. I’ve spent the last few years refining and adding to this program so that I can continue to support as many mums as possible as they rediscover what it is they want AND how to make plans to go and get it.
“I felt like I was having an identity crisis! I had such low self-esteem and felt very vulnerable. I felt like I didn’t know myself at all anymore”.
“I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I have become so much more aware of my self, my feelings, my reactions, my responses and my role as mother”.
“I was sad as there was so much I didn’t know about myself, I didn’t even know where to start. I felt like I had no goals, no ambition and was *just* an ok mother. I realised I didn’t really know who I was at all and I was tired of feeling like something was missing”.
“I feel very grateful for the life I have and the choices I have made to this point. BRAVE opened my eyes to a different perspective. Small tweaks to my thinking have allowed me to realise that I am in control of my life and responsible for my happiness. I am more comfortable in my own skin”.
“I felt lost, I felt unhappy, I felt there were lots of things I could or should be doing that would make me happier but I couldn’t seem to motivate myself or find the time to do it or to focus on me, I was eaten alive with “mammy guilt” for not being a good enough mother”
“I feel content, I feel realistic, I know I am happy, I am learning my triggers and what i can do to nip some of them in bud before it gets to breaking point. I am learning to forgive myself for not being my fantasy of a perfect mother”
BRAVE was designed to cut through your stories and get straight to the heart of who you are. It was built by a mother for mothers who are on the cusp of change, it shines a light into the areas of your life you’ve been avoiding so that you can safely and confidently begin to love and accept who you are now.
So let’s talk about some of what we explore so that you get to rediscover who you are now. There are quite a few things that we work through in order for that to happen and you’ll find some information below on each of the themes that we cover over the course of the 12 weeks.
We’ll be exploring what values actually are, what YOUR unique values are and why it’s crucial to understand the role they play in how we see and show up in the world.
Have you ever actually taken the time to think about what you believe to be true about
yourself at this exact moment in time? Doing this will blow your mind because you get to see how you are speaking to yourself and only then can you change it.
We’ll explore who is actually responsible for your happiness and what happens to the dynamics in your relationships when you expect other people to sort your shit out for you.
We’ll identify and own the stories that you run in order to justify/defend why things are the way they are in your life.
With the knowledge you’ll have gained about values, you’ll be looking at your closest relationships differently.
We’ll explore the fantasy side of motherhood and challenge the illusions you have around the type of mother you ‘should’ be.
When was the last time you REALLY thought about something you wanted to achieve or accomplish in the future? When was the last time you actually broke your dream down into something that seemed manageable?
BRAVE is for you if…
BRAVE is not for you if…
The core course workbooks are delivered to your inbox weekly. Each workbook has been created specifically and is full of reading material, thought-provoking questions and journal prompts to get you thinking and exploring each of the themes we explore together.
Taking part in BRAVE looks like:
We all show up and commit to our own transformations whilst having the privilege of seeing others do the same. The magic of a group of women coming together with a shared purpose cannot be underestimated, it truly is a beautiful and powerful thing. And you can be part of that
– Jenny Mc
I would like to be clear here, BRAVE isn’t for everyone.
Even the women who have taken part tell me this in their feedback and this brings me joy to know they feel it too. BRAVE requires you to challenge yourself. It requires you to open up to the power of your beautiful vulnerability and sit with your discomfort rather than rush past it. Some people believe they want change but in actual fact they are looking for someone to give them an answer, to tell them what they should do or even just to listen to them talking about why things are the way they are. That’s not what I offer.
In order for me to help you get the results I KNOW are possible, I need you to go all-in with me because this is when the magic happens.
“I loved the whole thing! From day one explaining to us about holding space for each other, to making us all feel so welcome and safe – that is a really special gift. Questioning and challenging us in such a gentle way on topics that were tricky for us to help us dive deeper. The humor is very special also, this is difficult work so to be able to laugh through it was wonderful”
Shauna (mum of three)
“This 12-week BRAVE program is amazing. It’s fun and challenging. The way that it’s done in a group provides an amazing feeling of support. There is space held for everyone. There is humour and hard work. But the benefits are just amazing. I feel like I am only at the tip of the iceberg but even at that I just feel so much better, calmer, and in control. It feels like all women should get this opportunity when their child heads off to preschool to navigate their own life a little. Im craving more already!”
Alison (mum of two)
Love to join? Let’s talk numbers:
The ‘Early Bird’ investment is €700, this is available until Friday, 02nd September. After this, the investment is €850 (payment plans available)
Here’s a little bit about why it’s such great value:
All of this for just €700 (if you avail of the Early Bird).
I recognise that not every one who would love to take part in BRAVE has the financial means to be able to do so. For this reason, I offer a seat on the basis of a sliding scholarship. This means that there is an option to pay what you can. I am inviting those who feel drawn to this work but do not have the financial means to take part to email me to find out more about how the application for this works. This isn't a 'free' seat as I have found that we do not really attach value to things that are free and to take part in a programme like this is to commit to showing up in all your magnificent glory. BRAVE is built upon the energy of the women who take part and I hold the container we create as sacred.
“BRAVE definitely has had a ripple effect on all aspects of my life. My own image, my confidence in myself, my self-esteem, my responses and reactions, and interactions with my children.
I feel amazing! Rejuvenated and refreshed. I feel so true to myself again. I have grown so much and got so much clarity on things. I’m so much more confident in my choices, my decisions and my motherhood journey.
I am more tolerant and patient and understanding. I am less frustrated and angry. I have had big discussions and life-changing talks with my husband and dug deep with him and fixed/are fixing problems in our marriage. I have finally said enough is enough and started to live rather than just exist. I have wanted things to change for so long and I have finally found the voice to do it.
Go for it! You will not regret the time and energy you put into BRAVE. It is life-changing! You shed so much skin and really will blossom into a butterfly. You need to want something enough in order to make a change”.
Mum of three
“BRAVE has given me clarity. It has taught me to stop a lot of the excuses, to see why I was/wasn’t doing certain things, to see what was actually of value and benefit to me and to bin off others!
I have overcome my fear over trying for a second baby, I have changed jobs and bought a new house, it’s cheesy, but I do feel BRAVE has really helped me to embrace my own bravery! I think before I was so scared of change and doing things because I really didn’t know what I wanted or what would make me happy, and now I’m so much clearer on all of that.
Since BRAVE, I am not afraid to be honest, I don’t sugar coat how I’m feeling now, I can admit to what I need and when I need a break for example.
I am more realistic and MOSTLY I have stopped fantasising about being this impossible “perfect mother” and I am embracing my imperfections. One evening I had nothing sorted for my daughter’s tea, so she had a bowl of cheerios on the couch (it was one of those days!) and I was all ready to beat myself up about it, but instead, I noticed how happy she was to have “breakfast for tea!!!” and I embraced this excitement as a little “treat” for her and that I genuinely made her happy.
I am saying no – no to things that aren’t important to me and my family, no to additional stress. I’m saying yes to what I know will make me happy and life easier, freeing up time for what I actually enjoy, so Yes to a new job, Yes to getting a cleaner!
To those who are reading this, trust Jacqueline and trust the process. Give it the time and focus and you will get from it what you put into it, the fear is normal but it will be gone from Week 1, its new for everyone doing it so you won’t be in it alone”.
Mum of one
“I happened upon the BRAVE programme a few weeks before my youngest child was about to start school. I was feeling apprehensive about the shift that was about to happen in my life and what impact it would have on my identity. In truth, I had actually been lost for quite a while under the guise of an apologetic “stay at home Mum”. BRAVE popped onto my radar and reading through the outline of the program I was almost saddened as there was so much I didn’t know about myself. I didn’t even know where to start. I felt like I had no goals, no ambition, was *just* an ok mother. I realised I didn’t really know who I was at all. I was tired of feeling like something was missing in my life and I knew something needed to change.
Since taking part, I feel very grateful for the life I have and the choices I have made to this point. BRAVE opened my eyes to a different perspective. Small tweaks to my thinking have allowed me to realise that I am in control of my life and responsible for my happiness. I am more comfortable in my own skin and have a yearning to invest in myself more.
Some of my biggest a-ha moments came unexpectedly when listening to someone else speak on a topic that might not even have been relevant to me. Their experience or thoughts resonated with me and triggered some realisation about my own circumstances. The weeks where I was challenged most by the homework were particularly valuable, learning to sit with discomfort and journal my inner thoughts was both cleansing and confronting. These were the weeks where I felt I grew the most.
Jacqueline has a clear delivery of the course content and concepts, her ability to lean in and encourage women to go a little deeper and really figure things out is remarkable. It was often uncomfortable but it created a whole-hearted atmosphere where there was no room to hide from inner truths. When I initially read through the BRAVE material and Jacqueline referenced how she would meet me every step of the way I was confused as to what this actually meant. I understand this fully now and appreciate the personal time and effort and space that was held for me during the process.
BRAVE has been, without question, the best investment I have made. It transformed my life for the better. Jaq is amazing, she offers an incredible amount of support every step of the way. The small group coaching model was surprisingly beneficial, it was a supportive, safe space where I found myself showing up as the real me”.
Mum of two
You want to enjoy your life without being eaten alive by ‘mum guilt’
You want to confidently establish and maintain healthy boundaries in different areas of your life
You are craving the company of other BRAVE women who are also committing to their own transformations.
YOU’VE MADE IT THIS FAR…
You will not find another programme like BRAVE.
BRAVE started off as a programme for mums who felt lost but it has grown into so much more. It is a process, a system, a place, a sanctuary. It is where mothers go when they are called to go deeper in order to rediscover who they are now. It is a place of challenge and support, of powerful breakthroughs and gentle transformations.
My role in BRAVE is that of a coach, a facilitator and a guardian of the group’s integrity. I am a guide and mentor, a sister and mother.
We dive deep in BRAVE because that is where we find the gold, that is where we go to face ourselves.
This community of BRAVE-hearted mothers is only getting started, come and join us.
Firstly, don’t worry, you’re not alone. The majority of mums who take part in BRAVE have never experienced group coaching before either. By the end of it, they have all loved it and I have no doubt you will too.
Every Wednesday evening at 8:30pm. Calls usually last for a maximum of two hours and we start on the 21st of September.
Yes, certainly to begin with anyway. Being able to see each other and everyone who is on the call, encourages and promotes a feeling of trust and safety. There are times when of course the video can be switched off during the call but generally speaking, they are required to be on.
No, they’re not. There are many reasons for this but the main one is to respect the conversations that take place and the topics that come up for those who are present on the call.
Not to worry, there is plenty of opportunity for you to share your thoughts about the content of the call you missed in the Facebook group and I can support you there.
Apart from the weekly calls, it’s entirely up to you the amount of time you dedicate to BRAVE. Some women like to do a little reading each day and then discuss it in the group to tease it out and get clearer on their ideas, others have worked through the new content as soon as it arrives and then don’t look at it again until just before our call. It’s completely manageable and it’s also really enjoyable so you won’t mind doing the work (I promise!).